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5 Ways A Good Woman Can Become A Sexual Intellectual
Written by Robin Smith Specifically For BlogXilla.com
In the recent blog post, Stop Giving It Up For VIP Access And A Couple Of Sips From My Bottle, the question was posed: which is better the freaky girl or the good girl?
On the surface, it appears the freaky girl wins, but ultimately, the good girl actually does. With that said, you can be naughty, freaky, or whatever name you want to assign to it and still be the good girl, you just have to know how to do it. Being freaky only really implies two things: that you’re confident and enjoy sex. Ain’t nothing wrong with that. The difference between the freaky girl and the Sexual Intellectual is that the freaky girl puts it out there for all to see and have, while the good girl shares it with only one person.
If you’re a good girl who’s been trying to tap into your freaky girl side, you’ve come to the right place. Use some of these fun tips and tricks to embrace your inner freak.
Share your fantasies
Do you and your partner primarily kick it missionary and vanilla style? If so, you can change it up by sharing some of your deepest and darkest fantasies with each other. You might feel a little shy at first, but be rest assured that even some of your weirdest fantasies are actually quite normal. Once you’ve shared a few with each other, pick one or two to actually live out. Maybe it includes role playing or a little BDSM, whatever it is make it happen!
Dress it up
Wearing lingerie can be a really great way to tap into a different side of yourself and find some hidden confidence. Lingerie can help you shelve some inhibitions you may have and really let you let go. Look for a few pieces that flatter your shape and will knock your partner out. Make it extra special by picking something in their favorite color, doing your hair and donning some stilettos. You’ll feel freakier by the moment.
Toy around
Get to know yourself better and bring some new fun to the bedroom by getting a sex toy–or a few. Go to your nearest adult toy store like Adam & Eve and look for a toy that you think could be fun to use on your own and a toy that you could mix with your partner. The Rabbit vibrator, made famous by Sex and the City, has stood the test of time and remains at the top for being one of the best vibrators you can get. Pick one of those up for yourself and get a cock ring for a little extra bedroom fun. Make your trip even better by having your partner go with you.
Get tantric with it
Check out local tantric sex classes if you feel like your sexing skills are lacking or like you need a deeper connection with your partner. Tantric sex classes can teach you new moves and tricks, as well as how to truly connect with your partner during sex, have multiple orgasms and give you more sexual confidence. Freaky sex and tantric sex go hand-in-hand.
Talk it up
The easiest and sexiest way to be the freaky girl is to start talking dirty. If you’re a little intimidated, start by sending your partner a few sexy text messages. From there you can read each other pages of an erotic novel, or you can just dive in. Tell your partner when you like something or how something feels. Use this guide to get yourself started and see where it can go. Your partner will be pleasantly surprised.
Read MoreStop Giving It Up For VIP Access And A Couple Of Sips From My Bottle
The church girl versus the freaky girl which one is better?
At first glance one might say its the freaky girl. She is the object of affection all rap videos, all movies and even commercials. The gallant prince risk life and limb to win the beautiful princess. Who just so happens to be a willing virgin with double d breast and long hair. Music is no different you have to be willing to pop it open for a real nigga and that doesn’t mean when the preacher ask you to open your bible to Romans 4:17.
Read MoreThere Are No More Girlfriends, Just Situations & Friends With Benefits
There are no more girlfriends and boyfriends have been extinct since around the time that Snoop Dogg dropped his first album. A few years ago someone said you’re single unless you’re married and the whole idea of a relationship went poof.
There are no more couples just people who love each other without titles. Everyone I know is in a “situation.” They have a friend, with no title. They are just fucking someone. They are cut buddies. They are kind of sort of dating. If you’re in a situation like this I’d like to apologize.
Read MoreWhat If Cops Gave Tickets For Relationship Violations?
Written by Ron Brown For BlogXilla.com
I have a tendency to drive beyond the speed limit when on the highway. I drive even faster when I am running late! For the most part, no harm, no foul, as I usually get to my destination as anticipated. But every now and then, the red and blue lights of a police cruiser appear in my rear view mirror and the pigs give me a ticket.
Read MoreDon’t Take Advice From Baby Mamas With No Prospect Of A Ring by @718_pen_artist
Photo By Last Night’s Party
Written by Ariana G for BlogXilla.com
The 20s is a critical time in any woman’s life. However, when you throw relationships into the equation, many people are quick to give you a laundry list of why you shouldn’t do it. Trust me, I should know. From the unwanted “You should date around and enjoy your life” speech to the snide comments about the seriousness of my relationship, I’ve heard it all. And to all of it, I’ve rolled my eyes, politely nodded, told people to keep their nose and advice out of my relationship and even been two seconds away from telling someone to f*** off because she’s just a baby mama with no prospect of a ring in the near future (yeah, I was tempted to go for the jugular with that one but I figured I’d be inflicting a deep wound that wouldn’t easily heal).
Read MoreA Woman’s Burden: The Stray Dog Theory Of Keeping Love
I haven’t been able to write anything great lately. Every time I sit in front of the screen with the urge to write nothing comes out. It’s just hasn’t been working. Then while sitting in deep thought I began to wondering if women are responsible making sure their man remains faithful.
A lot of women, some more bitter than others will say, a man should be man enough to stay with one woman, but that’s bullshit. There are 11 women to every man, half of the men are ugly. That makes 22 women to every man, half of those guys are gay. So that puts it at 44 women for every man, but half of the guys left have a small dick. So that leaves it at 88 women for a good dude like myself so unless a woman is doing her thing the good men have a whole bunch of options.
Read MoreThe Reason Those Other Girls Got Men And YOU DON’T
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You can’t expect the same results as the person next to you when it comes to love because that person might be in a different lane than you. I see it all the time, a young girl is upset because the next chick has found love, while she’s still out here lonely on Friday night. Believe it or not there is a reason the big booty Judy has more men than the good woman with the good job and her head on straight. She’s not only in a different lane, she’s on a different highway.
There are three highways of love, that all have different lanes. There is the above average highway, there is the average highway and there is the below average highway. Your job in life is to figure out which highway you’re on and how to get to where you need to go as quickly and as safely as possible.
The problem is none of you know where you’re going. You’re all lost. I can’t tell you the number of times one of my females friends asked me why can’t she find a man. I tell them all the time, stop comparing yourself to what your friends are doing and start picking from the people on your own highway of love.
Example and Fact: Trey Songz is going to have an easier time pulling more attractive women than I do. Another example and fact, Rihanna is going to have an easier time getting a man than Precious. Now that’s not to say that Precious can’t find a man, but Rihanna will have a lot more options.
A lot of women are looking for a guy like Barack Obama when they are out here running the streets like Sha’Nay-Nay from Martin. You need to come to the conclusion that you don’t want a Barack, you wouldn’t be happy with him and you don’t deserve a guy like Barack.
Same thing for these dudes out here. You can’t get a Michelle Obama if you’re on that good kush and alcohol with a bunch of down bitches you can call. These Bitches might love you and that’s all you’re going to get out of life.
Options are the key. Sometimes we fail to understand what are options are, because we are capable of anything. Sure a Precious can pull a Trey Songz but her chances of bagging a chubby chaser that looks like Flavor Flav are a lot higher. Now, please don’t get it twisted. I’m not saying ugly people belong with ugly people, but I am saying we tend to stick to people who are at least on the same highway as we are.
Chances are you’re not going to crash into a Bugatti in the projects, and if you do, chances are it’s going to be driven by a drug dealer or hoodlum. There are people in the above average lane on the below average highway. With that said, I tend to think that above average people like above average people.
There are people with average looks who do above average things and pull above average people. This is the world we live in. So when it comes to finding love you have to ask yourself are you looking in the right place? You could be on the above average highway in the below average lane and having a hard time finding love. When you’d have a lot easier time finding love in the above average lane of the average highway. I’m just saying.
What highway and lane do you think you’re in? Do you think people are lost when it comes to the type of person they should be with? Let’s have a conversation in the comment section.
Read MoreDon’t try to change her if she likes you enough she’ll treat you how you want to be treated without you having to force her.
— Xilla(@BlogXilla) March 15, 2013
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