Remember when I said there are no more relationships, just situations and agreement. Well today I am going to explain to 18 reasons why we don’t want anyone to know we are sleeping together. So let do it!
I don’t want my business out in the streets.
It’s a lot easier to move on when the next person doesn’t know we’ve been together.
Because I don’t want my girl to find out.
Because I don’t want my friends to find out.
I don’t want our friends to find out.
I don’t feel like having to explain myself about that mysterious tweet you sent from my bed.
I don’t want to end up on media take out.
In case I ever become famous I don’t want to see you in a vh1 behind the music special.
Because its always awkward when someone else mentions that I bumped uglies with someone they know.
I don’t want my friends to try to have sex with you.
I don’t even want my friends to think of me in a sexual way.
I don’t want your friends to try to have sex with me.
I don’t trust myself if one of your friends ever tried to have sex with me.
I don’t want your friends to think of me in a sexual way.
Because our business is our business.
Because I don’t want to deny that we had sex with one another.
Because my body count is high.
Because once we have sex I am officially off limits to ever female who has ever worked with you, kicked it with you, follows you on twitter, talked to you, seen in you in public, or heard your mentioned name in public.
Girls are crazy! But, there you have it. 18 good ass reasons not to tell a soul we’ve had sex. If you follow these rules we can keep doing the do.
On the surface, it appears the freaky girl wins, but ultimately, the good girl actually does. With that said, you can be naughty, freaky, or whatever name you want to assign to it and still be the good girl, you just have to know how to do it. Being freaky only really implies two things: that you’re confident and enjoy sex. Ain’t nothing wrong with that. The difference between the freaky girl and the Sexual Intellectual is that the freaky girl puts it out there for all to see and have, while the good girl shares it with only one person.
If you’re a good girl who’s been trying to tap into your freaky girl side, you’ve come to the right place. Use some of these fun tips and tricks to embrace your inner freak.
Share your fantasies
Do you and your partner primarily kick it missionary and vanilla style? If so, you can change it up by sharing some of your deepest and darkest fantasies with each other. You might feel a little shy at first, but be rest assured that even some of your weirdest fantasies are actually quite normal. Once you’ve shared a few with each other, pick one or two to actually live out. Maybe it includes role playing or a little BDSM, whatever it is make it happen! Dress it up
Wearing lingerie can be a really great way to tap into a different side of yourself and find some hidden confidence. Lingerie can help you shelve some inhibitions you may have and really let you let go. Look for a few pieces that flatter your shape and will knock your partner out. Make it extra special by picking something in their favorite color, doing your hair and donning some stilettos. You’ll feel freakier by the moment. Toy around
Get to know yourself better and bring some new fun to the bedroom by getting a sex toy–or a few. Go to your nearest adult toy store like Adam & Eve and look for a toy that you think could be fun to use on your own and a toy that you could mix with your partner. The Rabbit vibrator, made famous by Sex and the City, has stood the test of time and remains at the top for being one of the best vibrators you can get. Pick one of those up for yourself and get a cock ring for a little extra bedroom fun. Make your trip even better by having your partner go with you. Get tantric with it
Check out local tantric sex classes if you feel like your sexing skills are lacking or like you need a deeper connection with your partner. Tantric sex classes can teach you new moves and tricks, as well as how to truly connect with your partner during sex, have multiple orgasms and give you more sexual confidence. Freaky sex and tantric sex go hand-in-hand. Talk it up
The easiest and sexiest way to be the freaky girl is to start talking dirty. If you’re a little intimidated, start by sending your partner a few sexy text messages. From there you can read each other pages of an erotic novel, or you can just dive in. Tell your partner when you like something or how something feels. Use this guide to get yourself started and see where it can go. Your partner will be pleasantly surprised.
Last week I read an article that blew my mind. So much so that after reading it I came to the conclusion that a woman shouldn’t have a 100% say in getting an abortion. Just writing makes my skin shiver but its’ how I feel. Please allow me to explain.
There is a saying that nice guys finish last, but I don’t think that’s the case. Mainly because nice guys get the GOOD women. Most good women want nice guys. Perfect example, stripper Maliah Michel posted a photo quote on Instagram that read, “I know you’re a nice guy, but you can be such a little bitch.”
All month Wale’s song Bad has been playing in my head. So when my friend, invited me to the DC rapper’s concert at Bowery Ballroom I was like “no doubt I’ll roll with you.”
I had only planned to go home, cook and work on the completion of my book, The Blueprint For Sexual Intellectuals: Vol 1. The show was cool but the highlight of the evening was when Tiara Thomas came out with the guitar and started singing the hook to Bad. If you want to listen to it, click here.
Is it bad that I never made I never made love, no I never did it, but I sure know how to fuck
Then it dawned on me. A lot of girls never made love before and I felt like it was my fault.
Now you know me better than anyone, I am unapologetic about how I like to have sex. I mean for Christ sakes I am the man who wrote the art of choking during sex, 5 back breaking tips to fucking a girl doggy style and everything else in the rated grown up section of my blog. But I have yet wrote a blog instructing dudes on how to make love to a girl or even informing women how a guy should make love to them. So today I am going to do that. While it won’t be an in depth guide I will provide a few tips on how to make love.
A few things that must happen in order for it to be considered making love.
What’s the difference between making love and fucking. Some people think you make love differently than you fuck, others think as long as you’re in love, you’re making love. Regardless of how rough you like to have sex. Others think love making is more sensual, slower, more passionate than regular screwing.
You close your eyes, lick your lips and press them against the person you’re making love to. For me when I am in love and the ManXilla is inside of her and I press my lips against hers the feelings is unexplainable. If you know that feelings then you’re like me.
But what’s making love to you? Does it involved a lot of four play, talking, ass smacking? Let’s converse. Lets hit the comment section and come up with a solid idea of what exactly it means to make love.
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No matter how sexy she is, if she’s not educated she CANNOT be the perfect woman.
Not completely. Cosmopolitan gives you a random list of possibilities to sift through that could be the reason for a drop in your man’s sex drive.
Neon-Colored Drinks: Animal testing has shown that brominated vegetable oil, a common ingredient in both citrus-flavored flavored sodas and electrolyte-replenishing drinks can cause testicular damage. Bromine has also been connected with impotence and low sex drive in men. So if your guy is a fan, it might be time to get him to cut back.
Licorice: In a study published by the New England Journal of Medicine, researchers found that men’s testosterone levels dropped dramatically when they were given licorice supplements to eat. Random, right?
Forgetting to Floss: Not only does flossing keep your choppers healthy, according to the Journal of Periodontology, men who don’t regularly floss their teeth have a higher chance of erectile dysfunction than men who do.
Soy: Ladies with vegetarian boyfriends, take note: Soy has also been known to trigger feminizing qualities in men, like breast growth and high estrogen levels, as well as decrease men’s horniness and erection size.
Akin to the “yellow #5″ thing, what’s are some sex myths you’ve heard?
There seems to be a new craze going on in the apparel world playing on the “Cool story, bro” phrase, but now that it’s hit a mainstream store like Walmart, people aren’t having it. The Frisky writes,
In Vandalia, IL, Kayla Hyde shared with her Twitter followers her disgust over a black T-shirt in Walmart’s clothing section. With blue lettering reading “Cool Story Babe,” white lettering below orders the “babe” to “Now Go Make Me a Sandwich.”
While this message is stupid and gross, I’m not surprised to find it on Walmart’s shelves. I’ve been amazed by the lame sexist jokes that I occasionally hear (always from men), including, “Want to hear a funny joke? Women’s rights,” and “Why did the woman cross the road? I don’t know, but what is she doing out of the kitchen?”
Hmm… what do you think? Is this disgusting sexism or do people just need to lighten up?
If you had any doubt who Beyoncé voted for yesterday, the “Take That Mitches” photo she posted should give you a clue.
A main issue in this election was women’s health. Cosmo breaks down what President Obama’s win means for your vaginas.
No matter your politics, ladies can take heart in the president’s support of their reproductive rights. As our editor-in-chief Joanna Coles proudly tweeted last night: “Single girls get to keep on having sex and health care.”
Obama’s re-election means his pro-choice stance on abortion rights will stand, along with the probability that any Supreme Court justices appointed in his second term won’t be overturning Roe v. Wade.
The president’s Affordable Care Act will also be upheld, which means, depending on your plan, ladies may have access to free birth control, copay-free gyno checkups, STD counseling and more.
Funding to Planned Parenthood will also be protected, whereas Republican challenger Mitt Romney had voiced his desire to defund the non-profit organization, a champion of women’s health.
One of the first things that usually comes to mind when the topic of “thinking like a man” comes up is the ability to acquire a good amount of ass, with minimal feelings. Clarke of Madame Noire says women aren’t necessarily looking for Mr. Right, but are capable of “thinking like a man” too.
I’m sure that when you think of the idea of “Thinking Like A Man,” you conjure up thoughts of a bald head black man cheesing on the cover of a book that tells you ways you can get the respect and commitment you deserve in a full-fledged relationship. But that’s actually the complete opposite of what I mean when I talk about women I know who “think like men.” They’re not looking for commitment necessarily, they’re looking to collect men for leisure to see if they can—just like many men do.
Is there a such thing as thinking like a man to you? What is it? Are you looking for Mr. Right Now, instead of Mr. Right?
Here is another episode of Friends with Benefits featuring Yolie Monroe, Q Parker of 112 and myself. On this episode we discuss who is more likely to get cuffed this cuffing season. Slim chicks or thick chicks? Check it out and let us know who you riding for.
Remember Kanye said, “Until you have a daughter. That’s what I call karma”? Well, a writer at Madame Noire had a piece of her mind to give on the topic.
I’ve always wondered how some of you can be so cold. How you can have a wife here, a mistress there, and 30 side chicks spread everywhere, yet tell someone that you only want to be with them. Does sleep come easy knowing that your promiscuous ways and playboy antics crush hearts and bruise self-esteem, causing pain and bitterness for women who love you more than you love yourselves?
I bet it never occurred to you that you’re dogging another man’s daughter; some other man’s sister, niece, cousin or mother. But when it happens to a woman who’s close to you, you’re ready to bring out the bats and load up your guns. But five minutes later it’s back to Lisa, Pam and Nicky. Using them up and living without a care.
Hmm… what do you think? Does she have a point, or is this bitter logic?
Tiny isn’t afraid to please her man and that’s probably a big part of why she and T.I. have been together for so long. Here’s what she has to say about keeping the spice in the bedroom.
You have to try new things and be open and talk about things that you’re interested in. You also have to talk about things that he’s interested in and see if you guys can come to a happy medium, and just get wild … that brings a little something extra to the bedroom.
If only she had went into more detail! Sorry, I’m curious.
Would you get a $1,000 shot, if it promised months of heightened orgasms? Huff Post reports that chicks are getting injections for their G-spots…
According to Fabulous magazine, many women on the West Coast are now flocking to their doctors to get the “G-Shot” for their G-spots.
The so-called “lunchtime” procedure involves an injection of hyaluronan (a collagen-based filler commonly found in skincare products) delivered under local anesthetic to the G-spot region, the “G-Shot” website notes.
The idea, it seems, is that a larger, more pronounced G-spot would amount to heightened sexual arousal and an increase in vaginal orgasms.
I mean, a shot really isn’t that bad, considering the other pains women go through down there. But I don’t know if I’d be voluntarily getting any shots either.
Is sex on the first date ever okay? Under what circumstances? Your Tango cites one exception to the rule.
If you’re looking for a serious relationship and follow all the dating “rules” of waiting to have sex, you might find yourself having to open up emotionally during the early dates. By having sex early on, you would offer a fun distraction from the emotional intimacy. The only caveat here is the emotional intimacy might never develop. In that case you’ll either end up in a relationship without serious commitments, or moving forward in a relationship without a true bond.
So, what are the consequences to having sex on the first date? Rewards? Weigh in!
Oh, yeah. Alicia Silverstone from Clueless is peddling sex toys now! iAfrica reports,
The Clueless actress – who is well known for her vegan diet and eco-friendly lifestyle – has recommended people purchase the Leaf Vibrator sex toy, which is inspired by the outdoors.
“… Alicia – who describes herself as a “naughty vegan” – says she hopes her views on products ranging from house ware to party gifts will be useful to others.
She writes: “I’ll be sharing tons of info about amazing eco-friendly beauty products, cooking stuff, pet care, party planning, and ways to make your house healthy and green, all while keeping your style groovy and beautiful. I’m looking forward to telling you all about my favorite finds! (sic)”
And with her love of eco-friendly products, she is endorsing environmentally friendly vibrators. I’m always down for anything eco-friendly.
If you don’t go without panties, at least sometimes, you are missing out on life! You have not truly smelled the roses! Even Cosmo knows!
Skipping your undies has practical advantages. First, you eliminate that dreaded wardrobe woe, visible panty lines. Second, you’ll never do an emergency load of laundry because you’ve run out of clean underwear. Plus, briefs and thongs can be icky sweat magnets.
But it’s also about reveling in your sexy side. “Not wearing panties is risqué; you get a naughty rush knowing you’re so exposed,” explains Los Angeles clinical sexologist Ava Cadell, PhD. Removing the barrier that shields your intimate anatomy makes you more in touch with your innate sensuality, she adds.
Another benefit to being bare: how it affects your man. Whisper that you’re pantyless and his lust level will instantly soar. Even if you don’t clue him in, he’ll still be burning with desire. “Without underwear blocking your body, a man has an easier time picking up on your pheromones, which are natural chemicals you emit below the belt that make you attractive to guys,” says Cadell.
In the words of Smoke from Field Mob, “My Shawty… is f***ing other niggas and she f***ing me too.” Let me back up for a minute. I was dealing with this shorty, she wasn’t my girl or anything we were just f*cking! I call her up, take her out and have sex with her. This is what we did. The best part about it, is that we were honest with one another. One Friday night while laying in her bed, I asked her when was the last time you had sex. She replied, Wednesday.
Spoons can also help heat things up in the bathroom. Cosmopolitan gives a way you can use spoons to create a do-it-yourself sex toy.
Chill metal spoons in the freezer for a couple of hours, and then glide them over each other’s skin. Place them against his lips, drag them down his throat and across his nipples and abs, swirl them over his genitals and inner thighs, all the way down to his toes.
Okay, you might not be a “dog” per say, but sometimes we have to step back and take a look at ourselves when we’re looking for the cause of our problems. Madame Noire tells you to be real with yourself, because you just might be the reason for your trust issues.
Whenever we talk about someone having trust issues, we always try to get to the so-called root of them. Meaning it’s usually not our current partner’s actions that are making us insecure, but likely something that happened to us a long time ago, either in a previous relationship or even as a result of observing dysfunctional interactions between our parents and other couples. One thing people rarely think about, though, is how they cause their own trust issues. Sometimes it’s not just what someone did to them, but what they have done to other people.
Can you relate? Have you over come your trust issues, due to some things you may have done in the past?
All pussy is not created equally, and I don’t think women understand that. Some pussies are prettier than others, some get wetter, some are warmer and they all taste different. Pussy is sort of like chinese food in the hood, the general tso’s chicken taste a lot better at Great Wall than it does, at Sun Ming Li’s meaning that where you get it from matters. All pussy is not created equal.