I got an interesting email from one of my female readers, While I did give her some advice I thought the sexual intellectuals could give her some added advice. So read her letter and lets try to help her out.
I have been dating this guy D for about 9 years. We met when were in college (we went to different schools). We were just kicking it talking regularly, occasionally hanging out. From the beginning there has always been a connection that went further than the sex. After I graduated, my friends and I moved to a new city, which happened to be where he lived. We continued to date, but not exclusively. Neither of us was ready to be tied down, but again that connection kept us talking and hanging out and by 2005 we were hanging out all the time.