Things You Can Never Say If You Want To Find Love
After I published my 4 Laws of Finding Love, I got a bunch of messages from women thanking me and letting me know how much they needed the information. So to help people even more I am going to focus on the Law of Change. In case you still haven’t read them, the law of change is as followed.
If you want love, you must decide to change your thinking. My law of change, is as followed, if you want to change your love life, you must change the way you think. If you believe there are no good men out there you won’t find good man.
I find that Negative Talk is a plague. We talk ourself out of so many things and love is one of them. If you want to find love you have to change the way you think, talk and behave.
When we tell ourselves something our brains believes it. Have you ever wondered why so many delusional people roam the earth? I’m joking but I’m dead serious at the same damn time. So today I am going to explain to you, some things you absolutely cannot say if you want to find love.
All men are dogs. - If you believe all men are dogs, you have already built a wall to keep all the good men out and the dogs in your yard. And I’ll tell you dogs love the taste of that milkshake. I find that when women believe all men are dogs they allow their man to treat them how a good woman should never be treated. An example of this logic is this, “He’s a dog so I know he has a chick on the side. As long as she stays in her place, I’m good.” Good women deserves a man who only has eyes for her.
He’s just out for sex. Thinking this has the potential to block the good men from getting to know you and it will be all your fault. When you believe this, nothing a guy says will matter because in the back of your mind, he is only out for sex. So if he does something nice, he’s doing it to get some, instead of doing it because he likes you or he’s attracted to you or because you deserve it. If a guy doesn’t say I am only out for sex, he’s not only out for sex. Now sure most guys will never say that but we say things with our actions all the time. Pay attention and you should be able to hear it loud and clear.
Men ain’t shit. This is another example of wall building. If this is your thought process then you will start to look for the ain’t shit antics of men. Let’s be real we all have those tendencies, men and women. No one is perfect and we all have our peeves. Relationships are about excepting people for who they are.
Single, sexy and free. This is the motto of a bunch of women I know, but this way of life may be very well keeping you single sexy and free. You have to create an environment of security in the early stages of your relationships. But, how can you do that if you’re screaming your single sexy and free? This is telling a guy, I’m single, I am not with you. I don’t belong to you. We are not together. You cannot tell me what do to. I’m sexy. Men want me. women want to be me. I’m free. You are not my daddy. I won’t listen to a damn thing you tell me. I won’t even consider your feelings when I make my decisions. When it comes to you zero fucks will be given. With that said, do you realize why you’re single sexy, free and lonely?
There are no good men out there. I have a saying, never settle. If you believe good men are impossible to find, you’ll never find one. I’m living proof that there are good men out there. We still exist and we are actually a lot easier to find if you just decide to look for us or let us through your wall.
What are some things you can say to yourself to help you change the way you think? Did you even say one of these things? Why do you believe them?