Maybe Woman Shouldn’t Have 100% Say In Abortion
Last week I read an article that blew my mind. So much so that after reading it I came to the conclusion that a woman shouldn’t have a 100% say in getting an abortion. Just writing makes my skin shiver but its’ how I feel. Please allow me to explain.
Here is what happened. A couple hired a surrogate mother to have their child. Everything was going well until a check up revealed that the baby only had a 25% chance of having a normal life. The couple who donated the sperm and egg to make the baby the surrogate was having decided they no longer wanted the baby.
They had 3 other kids and couldn’t commit the time to caring for a special needs child let alone the thought of bringing a baby into this world for a life of suffering and medical treatments. But the surrogate refused to get the abortion. The couple offered her a lot of money, but she still refused.
Gaby of the Thought Catalog writes:
The surrogate thought the life deserved a chance. But she also had kids of her own and bills to pay so she sought an adoptive couple for the child. (However, the baby was still legally and genetically the couple’s. See where this is fascinatingly confusing?)
So she found a woman with experience raising special needs children and she and her husband agreed to adopt the baby. Then, the baby is born, right? And it turns out the first couple wants to be listed on the birth certificate as the baby’s parents…
The story gets weirder and being that the surrogate hi jacked the whole plan she ended up going on the child’s birth certificate and no father was listed. Then the story just gets sad:
As expected, the baby has a slew of medical problems. She can’t walk, talk or use her hands properly and she’s fed with a tube.
This is a baby who was “born to suffer” especially when such suffering could have been prevented by an abortion.
After reading this there was a major conflict in my mind. Up until now I have always believed it is a woman’s right to do with her body what she sees fit, but now I realize there are too many other factors involved. Having a baby doesn’t just change the mother’s life it changes the father’s and the baby’s life as well.
As a father, I understand we don’t have say in abortion. Whether we want a child or don’t want a child our opinion ultimately does not matter. The woman gets to do what she wants and honestly I don’t think thats fair.
If I’m willing to step up, I don’t get the opportunity to raise my child, be an amazing father or look into my child’s eyes for the first time. I won’t get to teach him or her how to ride a bike, throw a ball, or ask the child’s sisters to babysit.
At the same time, if the mother doesn’t want the child, then she is forced to raise a baby she never wanted, but what if the father is willing to step up and raise the child without a mother? There are so many twist and turns that the whole concept of abortion is totally screwed up.
I’m pro-choice and this topic hits close to home on many levels. But I want to know what y’all think? Do you think a man should have more say in the abortion process? Lets converse.