7 Amazing Steps To Having A Better Relationship
Everyone wants better. A better job, a better car, a better pair of shoes than the last ones you bought. We all want better. So today I’m going to tell you how to use my law of focus better. How to use the law of focus to help you be a better person inside your relationship. Because good women know they can never stop getting better. So here are 7 factors to being better at getting into relationships.
Focus, Think and Have Purpose - Whenever we are getting to know a person we always ask what do you look for in a person you’re trying to settle down with. Most of the times we don’t know. We have a blanket statement about how we want something who is, xyz but I am telling you, you have to describe the exact type of person you want to settle down with. From their looks to their personality to every little detail. You MUST know the type of person you want to get into a relationship with, or else you’ll continue to date losers, trollops and heartbreakers.
You Must Have The Appetite For Love - In order to find love you must have a desire to find this person. Think of it like food, when you crave something sweet you head to Georgetown Cupcakes. When you want a burger, you’re hitting up Five Guys the first chance you get. When you have this appetite for love you’ll do the things to get it more persistently than if you don’t have a desire to find this person.
A Love For Yourself - If you can’t stand on your own, you’ll never be apart of a successful relationship. Mark Cuban wrote that on his blog. Love is really a do it yourself type thing. Once you love yourself and understand that no matter how great the person you want may be, you are everything they want despite your faults. So if you desire a doctor and you simply work as a telemarketer, you must know you still have everything this doctor needs and want from a lover.
Plan To Get Them - How are you going to get this person? Any sort of plan is good enough to find the person of your dreams. It all start with a plan. If you want a successful business man, you might want to start going to business conferences, which happen in every city all the time. If you want an “Like Art Type Girl” you’re going to have an easier time finding her at a museum than at a strip club. Once you have a plan you will make it better and better and be more likely to find the person you want.
Get To Know The Person – Once you find a contender you must listen to them. Our goal in relationships is to understand what the person is looking for, what they want and the things they needs. Example if your perfect person is celibate and you like to have sex, then it might not work. Then it’s time for you to move on. Just because you bagged an attractive person with all the qualities you desire does not mean this person is the one for you. There is a difference from getting the shoes from Baker’s and getting them from Bergdorf’s.
The Outside Interference - Your friends will bring you down, they will hate on and throw all types of shade onto this new relationship. If they are not addding things to this relationship it might not be time to mix the two. Don’t tell your friends your business. There is a saying that opinions are the cheapest commodities on earth. You if you want a rich and fruitful relationship keep your friend’s opinions out of your heart.
Visualize It All Coming Together – If you concentrate on building this love and making this love last then it will. Visualize yourself doing the things that need to be done in a relationship then you will be more likely to do them. You must be persistent with everything you do. Persistence is not only the keep to finding love, but to accomplishing your dreams because 100% of the time we give up too early. Don’t give up on love.
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This was very helpful. I am not really looking for love right now because I am still in college but this will help with my future. And when you said we should know the type of the person we want, I made a list, and it was rather long (full of the qualities I want and need in a guy). I feel kind of bad that I want and need so much.
When I try to plan out a way to “get” someone it never works! Then I end up with all of these thoughts on a relationship that never really existed.
I keep hearing about outside interference.. Am I the only one with good friends who can give quality advice? I feel like this concept was created by a man who decided that they needed to convince their woman that the only reason their relationship is not successful is because she keeps listening to her awful friends who are clearly jealous of their relationship. Because no good friend is going to tell you to stay with tyquon who keeps cheating on you, but these days saying that makes you a hater, bad friend, or “an outside intereference”
Im trying to continue to visualize what I want and focus on that.. It just difficult if your partner doesnt YET focus on these qualities, so i must share this with him!
from one of your last articles I realized that I take loving myself a little too far. at this point I realize i need to show that I am content with who I am, and love myself for that, but I am also capable of being loved and loving myself.
**and loving someone else I mean
This advice was spot on. Even the most loving, supportive friends can give crap advice if you allow them too far into your relationship space. I used to catch flack when I’d stay home or go out with my man rather than partying it up with my girlfriends. I had to tell them point blank… I’m not trying to be up in a club every weekend with you all, I have a relationship I need to be present for. They still attempt to crack on me but at this point, I could care less. I’m there for birthdays, celebration and spa days but I also have a man at home whom I have to show up for, lol.