Set A Goal For Love — Be The Best

Love is a beautiful thing. Really, it’s freaking great. Regardless of how much it hurts when you break up with a person or how stressed you get when they go out all night or like someone else’s Instagram pictures, love is freaking amazing. Do you agree? Today I am here to tell you how to make your relationship even better. Whether you’re in love or not.

If you’re not in love don’t worry pay attention and take notes. Because the beauty of real love is that you only have to be right once. So when true loves comes it stays and last forever.

When I say you only have to be right once when it comes to love I mean it. When you find the person you’re going to settle down with, your exes aren’t going to matter. No one needs to be 100% in order to be great. In baseball hitting the ball 30% of the time makes you an all-star. In basketball make 45% – 50% of your shots, you’re likely to win the championship. When it comes to finding love the odds are even better. If you date 100 people and meet one person you can spend the rest of your life with, then you’re good.

You’ll go on to raise a family, and spend the rest of your life happy and making all of your single friends sick of you over the things you post on your Facebook status.

So how do you do this? Right now most of y’all probably have a few people you’re talking to right now. A main and maybe a couple of other friends. There is probably one person who you really like, but its not advancing and you just don’t know what to do in order to make it work.

But all you have to do is set one relationship goal — be the best. It doesn’t matter what this person does for a living, or who they’ve dated in the past, all that matters is that you do whatever you can do to be the best. The best for that person.

When you’re the best at something, the demand for you will grow. It will grow because people want the best, people want to be associated with the best, as billionaire business man Mark Cuban once said. So how do you get better? How do you become the best person they’ve ever dated?

Simply by listening to them. If you listen to a person they will tell you every thing you need to know. “I can’t stand when my little brother leaves the toilet seat up” or “OMG! I love S’mores.” An actually conversation can spark a million ideas of small things that go a lot further than buying a diamond necklace for Valentine’s Day.

A quick text message of a snarky sign telling someone to put the toilet seat down, with the caption “send this to your brother” will put a smile on her face. A evening watching something she DVR’d while the two of you make smores on the stove is a boss ass date.

The only problem is people don’t know how to listen. To be a good listener all you have to do is be attentive and take the time to actually pay attention. You don’t need to comment on everything the person says, or offer an opinion. In fact most of the time women don’t even want an opinion they just want to share their thoughts with someone. Men are the same, if we want an answer we will specifically ask you.

So just listen, genuinely, sympathetically, and with empathy. All you need to do is just be there for them. Whether it’s a guy or girl we just want to know someone is there for us.

While listening you can get all the information you need, in order to be the best. That’s the beauty of us as human beings. We can do anything we put our minds to. If your girl likes a guy who can cook, pick up a recipe and practice cooking. You won’t be Chef Marcus Samuelsson one day one, but after a year you could be better than him. A year is not long if you’re trying to spend the rest of your life with someone.

If your man likes a girl who can give a great massage after a hard day of work, there are classes that can make you an expert at back rubs. No matter what it is, we can learn it. If you’re like me, most of the things that make you happy, are not big things at all. For example if my girl brings me twix or a can of Planters Heart Healthy Peanuts when she comes over, I’m in freaking love. It’s that simple.

If you pay attention to the details of regular conversation, the person you love or want to love you, will soon realize they don’t want to spend their time with anyone else but you.

So set a goal, strive to be the best.

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— BlogXilla (@BlogXilla) January 25, 2013