Too Many Baby Mothers, And Not Enough Wives… Blame The Men!
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Damn it ,en. It’s time to step up our game. Last week my good friend Pete M wrote a blog called the real reason women can’t find a good man, about how women outnumber men making the odds of finding a man much harder. While my time in Atlanta confirmed this, I actually have a different thought process… Why the hell can’t a black man find a woman to complete him?
Think about it, it’s the men who should get down on one knee and ask for a woman’s hand in marriage. It’s the man who is suppose to provide. It’s the man who is suppose to be a man and make the first step but instead we got the game fucked up. Hip Hop girlfriends are dropping down on one knee and asking rappers to marry them “For Love or For Ratings.” That’s just wrong.
Look Ill be the first to own up to my part in the stigma of the single black woman. I’ve placed a lot of blame on the independent woman for not being able to find a man. I’ve posted blogs telling dudes to avoid dating single mothers. I’ve promoted cheating, justified being a side chick and written entire guides telling women how to steal another chick’s man. Now it’s time for us men to step up to the plate and start making honest women out of the queens we met.
I firmly believe that the reason there are more women than men in the world is so we can find the right woman for us. Men are fuck ups, we routinely do dumb shit and there wasn’t so many women for us to practice on we’d probably run out of women and live in a world full of lesbians. Okay, maybe I’m exaggerating but you get my point.
Now is the time for men to stop chasing jumpoffs, and start making wives. Because it’s up to men to pop the question. It’s up to the men to climb to the level of our strong “good” women and met her on her level BEFORE asking her out on a date. No women, black or white should should settle for a man who will never be on her level career wise. Its up to us men to demand more of ourselves.
The fact is that being single is fun, for men and women but it’s time for us to change the future. There is nothing wrong with a single woman, or a single man, but we are skipping steps because we are liking it and not putting a ring on it. Maybe we can blame the facebook like button. Maybe we can blame hip hop. Maybe we should blame ourselves and take responsibility. I know too many men with baby mama drama, too many mother’s who can’t stand their baby father’s. Bottom line there are too many baby mothers and baby fathers and not enough husbands and wives. So it’s up to us to make our women wives, if we don’t we cannot be mad when someone else does.
So what do you think? Could the real reason so many women are single, simply be men? Is it time for men to grow up, step up to the plate and start making women, wives instead of jumpoffs? Why are you single? Lets converse.